8 years ago today, I took a leap of faith.

After messaging with this intriguing woman I met on fetlife (who is also a man) I decided, what the hell, and agreed to meet and go out to a fetish event. I had never been and it was on my Dirt Nap List™.

But this woman! S/he did weird things to my insides… I wasn’t quiet sure how I felt about it. Curious. Turned on. Endlessly fascinated with the person I was getting to know. I was just healing from a whole bunch of heart ache bullshit, I just wanted some FUN in my life. And Misty was (and is) 100% fun. It was easy to say yes when she invited me to join her for an evening of dancing, people watching and getting all dolled up.

As the date got closer, I was a bit nervous. I was nervous about being “too old” to get into the club (HA! 40 was not even close to old) and I was also nervous about seeing his boy side. Would I be attracted to him? I was going to meet her boy-side and then we’d get dressed up together.

I’ll never forget pulling up to his house… I was instantly smitten! He was sun-kissed, freckled adorableness with a smile that stopped my heart. His blue eyes were the happiest eyes I have ever seen – as mischievous as they were joyous. They still are.

We played music and kissed and touched each other as we got dressed up. Swapping clothes and lipstick kisses.

When we were at the club the only person I remember looking at was her. We found a corner and stared at each other, not able to keep our hands from exploring the other. We shut the club down at 3 and drove to the beach. It was foggy, and we laid out her long coat and finally had each other in the sand. Clothes everywhere, as we fumbled to get closer. It was passionate and dichotomy between this beautiful girl that I was kissing, and the deliciously big, hard penis that was making see stars was rewiring my brain.

We left when the sun was up, talking, laughing and holding hands – stealing more kisses. I knew I had changed, that my life had changed as much as I knew that I had to have this person in it. For the long haul.

We’ve had 8 wild years and I hope for many more. We choose each other each day. I’ve learned so much about myself and how I want to love and live. I couldn’t have asked for a more amazing partner-in-crime. I am in awe of the person s/he is – smart, talented, kind and thoughtful. And can fuck like a porn star with a sexy brain to match. It’s a life lottery windfall.

I know the future is an unknown path, and many (many!) things can happen, there will be challenges we’ll face, and nothing is promised. But I am so grateful for this time that we have been given.

Happy 8th Anniversary Misty. I love you.