Your hubby is a lucky guy! He has you and is life is meaningful, I’m a useless, pussy free, short dicked, and inferior male. I would like to find a Woman like you
I get a lot of messages like this. I usually ignore them, but I have to say something here. So many men go on about how pathetic they are as if that’s supposed to be some kind of advantage?
You want to find a woman like me? Then you have to be a strong, capable, confident man. My husband is young looking and acting, stays healthy and fit, is handy and knows how to fix things, and while he is not build like a porn star he has always been a good, giving lover.
My husband is not locked because he is useless. He is locked because it makes me feel powerful to have locked up a good, strong man. To me it’s like having a wild animal on a leash. Controlling a strong man is sexy. There’s no fun in controlling a weak man.
Women don’t want “inferior” men. Advertising yourself as useless and inferior is not the way to attract the kind of woman who would be happy to play bedroom games with you. I honestly do not understand why so many of you men make a point of mentioning how sad and pathetic you are.
This is kinda like the wall of cuckoldry thing and it begs the question: Do any guys actually BELIEVE that a ‘pathetic, useless, loser’ is what women want? Or are they not giving it much thought and research beyond porn?
The ONLY ‘women’ I’ve ever seen *asking* for “pathetic loser pigs” are hello sissy findommes 🙄
@nice-predator 😅 I was worried that I was being too harsh, so I’m glad that you agree. The pathetic worm thing has to be driven by men, right? And then they’re surprised when women just aren’t into it… except the kind of women who will just take advantage of them.
I feel it was more upfront than harsh. I wish guys who approach women with instant self-humiliating/self-deprecating kinks would realize how bad a place it can put us in because we’re stuck weighing whether this person is just careless OR actually suffers low self-esteem issues which ought to be addressed. It’s HEAVY and shouldn’t be dropped onto a literal stranger who has no indication of their mental well-being or life situation.
I mean.. honest talk guys: Self-hatred kinks are *unsettling* to us, do not drop them onto REAL people like surprise bombs. Even if/when I engage in more ‘humiliating’ acts, it is only after building a long, trustworthy, intimate bond with someone to make sure it is safe for both of us. I don’t, and shouldn’t, want that responsibility with a total stranger. If you want that without any human investment first, go with a findomme; they want no human investment either so it IS fair trade. You can’t have it both ways.
There are genuine, real-life women on here sharing so much of themselves and their lives, giving useful, heartfelt information on what builds healthy, SEXY relationships because it is important to them. Don’t engage them like it’s a one-sided porn session, that’s not fair game and won’t help your sex life either. Join in, sit calmly for a while and learn.
