Dear people who annoy me. Please cancel my subscription to your issues.
Oh and by the way…I unfollowed you.
I am incredibly lucky not to have people in my life who annoy me. ❤ My ex husband being the only lingering exception. And he lives over 4000 km away, so not really “in my life” much, just when it comes to my people visiting him or matters that pertain to them that we need to discuss.
I have actually been putting off calling him recently, but I’m going to need to make the call. My oldest will be leaving home at the end of April, and I want my ex to help him out as he launches out into the world. Even if it is just a little bit.
In the 12 years we’ve been apart he has never increased his child support. I know he’s gotten raises. Honestly, I don’t want any of his money, but the kids need things and I have been struggling with the increase in price of *everything*. And who knew 4 teenagers could eat so much!! Gah!
I’d rather gargle glass than tell him I need him to help out, but I’m going to have to. And it sucks. He’ll likely tell me to take him to court, which he knows will be tough for me.
He works for this total boys club. I know the ins and outs because my old business partner used to be their accountant. She would set up secret accounts for mistresses/girlfriends, so their wives wouldn’t find out, and split income with new spouses so ex wives would get the bare minimum. Gross bullshit like that.
Justice is a game for the rich. When we divorced they gave him their corporate lawyers and said “go get her”. I know this because he stupidly left his email and facebook open on our home computer after he left, and I had access for a while. Enough to see the horrible lies he told about me, his plotting to “crush me” and his desire to see me dead (and friends of his offering to make it look like an accident, all just jokingly, he insisted). This all after he actually tried to strangle me and was removed from the house.
Like I said, justice is a privilege of the rich.
Anyway… Misty has been helping my oldest get his car fixed up, took him out and bought him new glasses, and is now helping him look for a camper van, that he is going to help pay for. I have been so absolutely STUNNED by his parenting of my oldest. And that’s what it is – parenting. He taught him to drive, he texts and talks with him about stupid little things and also big things like life… It is overwhelming and makes my heart feel tight in my chest with all the gratitude I feel.
So I’ll hold all that goodness close as I dial my ex’s number. Remind myself that I am doing this to help my kids, and swallow my pride (which is chalky and unpleasant).
