It makes me feel genuinely sick to my stomach when I think about how many freshly 18 y/o roam around on the bdsm side of tumblr straight away (they’re allowed to and I’m not trying to demonize that) while still being in the headspace of a minor (absolutely normal as well), and therefore being groomed and manipulated and gaslit so easily by old men who claim to be experienced doms.
It really makes me feel sick. They don’t know what to look out for in people who claim to be into bdsm, they throw around their alleged kink lists and limit lists without any concern for privacy or the danger it’s putting them into, or worse, they pride themselves on having almost no limits, on being inexperienced and fresh and wanting someone “to lead their way”, and making themselves so awfully vulnerable.
I have a few 18 y/o mutuals who post content I enjoy, so I’m not demonizing y’all in the slightest. Just please be fucking careful. Stay away from people who actively approach you in dms and try to get you to be their sub straight away, or honestly just in general via Tumblr/Twitter/Fetlife whatever. Man, get to know the PEOPLE behind this fucking anonymity first, before engaging in a thing built so heavily in trust and vulnerability like bdsm. And if they’re only interested in showing you their “dom” persona and nothing else, or you feel like they’re lying and being sketchy when you actively try to engage with them outside of kink conversation, then fucking block them.
Old does not mean experienced. Someone who’s above 30 and actively exclusively seeking out people below the age of 20 is not trustworthy, not in general and especially not in terms of kink.
There are good folks on here, a lot, but I can guarantee you that there are way more who don’t have good intentions with you.
Be careful out there.