The last of herdirtylittleheart’s list of heart healing things…
This one made me cry. Sob. Ache. Angry. Because I don’t want this to be the end.
But when you treat another person’s heart with disregard, what choice do you leave them with?
You can’t make a person feel something they don’t. He was so open at first, I felt this incredible connection – and then closed up tighter than nun’s legs. Once that intimacy is gone, is there ever hope to get it back? That question has kept me hanging on, fighting.
I would tell him/ask him, “When you are done, let me go. Don’t drag this out. Rip the damn band-aid off.”, and because he hasn’t, it gives me false hope.
Because really (feel free to jump in and correct me), would this be going on if he loved me? If he wanted me in his life, in a real, meaningful way? No. If he did, I would hear from him. He would *want* me. He would keep me in the loop. He would care to know how I am…
And so I go back to #9, which takes me back to step 1… and I start over again.
And in keeping with HDLH’s sentiment – Tell the person you love how much they mean to you – don’t waste a minute, don’t take their love for granted, enjoy their focus on you, and yours on them. Enjoy, respect and love each other. And work at it every day.
Things That Heal an Achy-Breaky Heart #10
Know when to let go.
“Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.”
— Paulo Coehlo
I have been holding off on posting this because I wanted to really feel it, to really believe it. I’m still not quite there. In fact I posted this early this morning and then deleted it… regretting it… I chose to put it back up because I know it’s true.
It’s a process.
This will be the last Things that Heal an Achy Breaky Heart post I make, I have been really touched by the messages you’ve sent me about your own healing. We learn so much from every heart break, just the way we learn so much from every love.
Be kind to yourselves and to each other. <3